Select a letter from this list, or X to exit: flfff Date: Friday, January 31, 1992 7:03am Forum: BurnWard From: Vibrantm Msg#: 136150 To: ** ALL ** *EXEMPT* Re: lovetest.zip File: LOVETEST.ZIP (2 replies) Short, simple test which tries to highlight what matters to you/how you approach a relationship. Under 14K! Date: Monday, April 6, 1992 8:22pm Forum: BurnWard From: Enchanter Msg#: 174145 To: Rpm *EXEMPT* Re: brainwsh.txt File: BRAINWSH.TXT (Reply to #173410, Reply to #172368,*) (2 replies) I was talking about brainwashing -- exactly so. Subliminals is all a part of it, though not as effective as other means. Here... read this... Date: Sunday, October 3, 1993 3:07pm Forum: BurnWard From: Balder -- The Dead God Msg#: 446132 To: ** ALL ** *EXEMPT* Re: bits.pom File: BITS.POM (Fw by Lythande, Copy by Lythande, Fw by Sysop) A poem I wrote about a realtionship developing though Online means... and its problems... Date: Sunday, April 10, 1994 7:15pm Forum: BurnWard From: Fez Msg#: 469599 To: ** ALL ** *EXEMPT* Re: Fez's Top Ten Things Overheard at the Hang! (Copy by Lythande) (2 replies) Top Ten Things Overheard at the Anniversary Hang.... 10. So *that's* a Fez? 9. Where's the awards? 8. Where's (insert any AH member that *lied* about coming)? 7. What's Rhonda Lee doin' spending all that time with Balki? 6. Origami...Hey that's not Origami...They're just making things with paper! 5. Hope you don't mind, I forgot your *real* name. 4. Hope you don't mind, I forgot you Handle too! 3. So...ah...You're the guy that uses a bra for a shoe-tree! 2. Where's Elvis? And the Number One Thing Overheard at the Anniversay Hang... 1. Hi...Nice to see you....Er...ah...Who the heck are you? Date: Wednesday, October 25, 1995 10:56pm Forum: BurnWard From: Dti Msg#: 647291 To: ** ALL ** *EXEMPT* Re: Cinders Gone Like Years (5 replies) Havent really hit the burn ward properly in some time now but lately have been reading in it and feeling the spectral sudden reflex reply coming on so perhaps best to all rather than to anyone in specific terms here names places times blur its a learned skill like most things havent hit the ward havent been burned in recent time it equals out no reason to hit with sufficient walls and years learning no people no people its a mantra silently repeated allatime hear it like subway wheels at night two blocks away no people no people no people I remember her too well whichever name there were several and only one real no shit gem and in another world she prolly gets to complain about me so its all equal in some larger scheme but allow me the time to moan and participate slightly inject wont feel a thing factory sealed for yr protection fifteen years ago the first real one we all starry eyed nineteen years old the both of us find someplace to live together in a december even painted the place we had high hopes lasted six months until some useless bullshit about a frying pan siffed with yesterdays hamburger cremains and she pops up in the livingroom with a kitchen chair swung out above her head aimed at my head and I caught the chair while yet in flight and it got worse then for everybody involved although no one actually got hurt which is pretty good when someone comes after you with a chair trying to bash yr head in. So she split. The next two years I got better at what I am and made it to work and could absorb light and energy physically just like the SF dying star thing that sucks in everything including itself and eventually collapses. Then much to my surprise alla sudden I end up with this new woman at work and I have to help her, it was another job longtime ago, film processing and the lab sucked they would open up the tanks and destroy the film and we had to tell bullshit stories about why and I had skills in disliking customers already so they sent me to an outlet with this new woman who happened to be the Mgr's special wonderful one and I was polite and extremely negative distant like Kublai Khan in real time practically jesus knows I was not making any attempt and inside a month or two I stole the Mgr's girlfriend to my house and that was a wonderful amazing thing beyond any word it would only serve to cheapen the time by going into it further really but that one blew up too after 3 years together and a crosscountry relocation well alright maybe slightly before the move as the both of us had been fucking someone else for the summer we were apart. Anyway, that one blew up too. Almost simultaneously the next involvement began as a result of the summer before the move and on her birthday knowing how awful it was the day we said goodbye in NYC before I drove out to SF with all this shit in a truck I called her up back here and it was over in SF with she who I moved out there to be with almost instantly and she said hello on the phone from work and I asked her if she would like to live in San Francisco and she cried and said yes and I really thought I finally did one reasonable thing and got a place etc went to get her at the airport and her stuff in trunks and I think we had four entire whole days that were undisputably perfect before the shit hit the fan once and forever over insane jealousy due to the fact I had not either killed the previous or found a spot to live in a whole other city and I liked SF it was my idea in the first place long time before any of this story happened so I was nonplussed at the reaction and it went downhill from there instantly for the next seven years through four cities and endless recriminations and two really bad relocations for bad reasons that ended poorly and no love at home so where is the place of refuge really at that point and eventually she split too although long after it blew up and that was practically four fucking years ago already and I still feel too much in respect to it and too long and no punctuation is a small elimination considering I really believe three times is the charm and I had my three times plus several never moved inside that far the way these did and inside is really far I got walls that China wishes it could jerk off imagining by now so I dont have new stories for the ward but I still have the old ones like ink straight through stained bone marrow. Just a short beat contribution, the place is pretty quiet tonight so I figured to run a long and atavistic upload of old words I say to myself all the time. Since its here, the ward and all, you know... --- * SLMR 2.0 * Nothing Exists Date: Thursday, January 4, 1996 1:19am Forum: BurnWard From: Erica Msg#: 662759 To: Johndrake *EXEMPT* Re: Cinders Gone Like Years (Reply to #57566) (3 replies) -=> Quoting Johndrake to Dti <=- Jo> I gather this gal you're referring to that you knew ...is someone who Jo> you used to hang around with and do some tattoos? Jo> Jo> I dunno..there's a part of my life which I wonder..what if I lived Jo> with her..gad..I look at myself and I wonder...the various girls I went Jo> out with..not exactly the greatest or the worst.. exceptions> and I think.....fuck..what a tough road I must lead.. Jo> Just for the fact that I've taken so much mental anguish that when the Jo> right girl walks in , I might toss more lead bombs on her and it's not Jo> fair to her.. Jo> so many girls...such a short period of time...gad.. Jo> Hmm..sounds like it's time to resurrect some sort of men's only forum Jo> :) Don't feel too bad.. I made a lot of mistakes when I entered the current relationship I'm in. Forgive me for not being a guy but I'm sure this gal can tell you a thing or to also... Here's my story... I met my first love very young and we were together for about four years on and off. I had some problems with drugs and he had problems telling me the truth. Yes, I was young but I think I screwed up that relationship because I wouldn't quit drugs. He asked me to several times and he stuck with me through a lot of things but when it came down to it I wouldn't quit. I finally decided to get help for my drug problem and he said he'd stick with me but we weren't a couple. He found someone new in the time it took me to recover and become a more productive individual. We remained friends but I lost that one. After him, I found another and I wasn't looking for a relationship with him. I was trying to go out with his friend but we became friends and I took him away from a long term relationship. He had a hard time deciding between the two of us for awhile and that had hurt but he finally chose me. We had a good year or so. Then a lot of things changed. His house burned down and his parents forbid us to see each other. His dog died. My dog died. His Grandmother died. I became pregnant. I know this may be taboo to some people but I got an abortion. Well that wasn't all my choice and was mostly his. I wanted to keep him but I also developed resentment. He started cheating on me. I dumped him and went back to him several times. Things got worse. He started getting abusive physically, emotionally, amd mentally. My self-esteem went down the drain. I got pregnant again. I was told by the doctors I'd die if I kept it. So more resentment and pain and hurt. More abuse. More break-ups and getting back together. And finally he seemed to settle down and try to make things work and I was holding on to the past and trying to believe we could get back what we once had. We got married. Dumb choice. He left for basic training. It was the happiest time of my life. I hadn't had anytime away from him and it was a relief to have the time away from him. But I also wanted to move away from my family so my parents could have a life. When he came home after about five months we moved to Texas and I gave it a half ass shot. But that didn't last long. We started sleeping apart but still lived together. I started this after he abused me one last time. I looked for a way out. Looked for a long time. I knew it was over and yet I gave it one more shot with extreme caution. I gave up fast. The love was gone. I knew I wasn't in love anymore and I just needed to go. He was gone away to Saudi Arabia and while he was gone I met my current fiance. But I didn't leave right away. I left shortly after he got back. Now I was sort of kicked out and moved out on him and was living with my new boyfriend. I had a lot of scarring. I filed for divorce and started the procedure and I had a hard time dealing with the fact that I'd spent almost seven years with someone and I couldn't get it to work out. I felt like a failure. I was angry and hurt from the years of abuse and the fact that he couldn't keep his dick in his pants after I was his first. I had resentment from having to deal with a bunch of shit alone on my own with no help from him. I started treating my new boyfriend like shit. I hurt him deeply as I was also trying to deal with my divorce and all the baggage from my past. But somehow he stuck with me (so far). It hasn't been easy. He proposed to me on Valentine's Day and I accepted. I know I am in love with him and want to be with him and I am so sorry for all the shit I put him through. But we finally moved away from, Texas and here to New York. I have had a new start and time to make up for the mistakes I made in the past. We are going to make it and we are happy together. With my last marriage. It was a Justice of the Peace thing. I payed for everything. The marriage license etc. I wanted the church wedding with the families the whole nine yards. I also paid for my divorce and didn't take a red cent from the rat bastard. I will do things right this time. My current fince didn't require me to go to the jeweler with him to pick out the ring. My ex didn't even bend on one knee and place the ring on my finger. I paid to go to McDonald's and he asked if I was going to put it on. My current took me to an Italian restaurant and had a balloon, card and flowers waiting for me at our table and bent down after dinner and proposed to me. A huge surprise and the best Valentine's Day I ever had. I know this will work out. My ex didn't even pay for dinner after the JP, I did and the guy he picked for the witness did. My parents and Grandmother had paid for two evenings in honeymoon suites so I could have a sort of honeymoon. Pathetic, yes. He had planned it out that after the four of us (My best friend, his bf, him and I) went to dinner and hung out that we'd go back to our parents houses that we were still living at. Well we didn't move in together and didn't live together until we moved to Texas. So I'm a firm believer in living together and getting to know each other, long engagements, and most of all a romantic. But I had to learn the hard way. BTW, we won't be getting married for another few years. But it's more planned and everything will be the way it should have been. Here you go... a message from Erica ;) ... Don't you hate it when someone's longwinded? ___ Blue Wave/QWK v2.20 [NR] Date: Monday, January 29, 1996 10:02am Forum: BurnWard From: Erica Msg#: 671052 To: Johndrake *EXEMPT* Re: Cinders Gone Like Years (Reply to #670839, Reply to #662759, Reply to #57566) (1 reply) JO>You musta been dating about the time I was still in my lone wolf JO>phase...I can't say I've gone through the trials and tribulations back JO>then ...because right now dating and JO>relatinoships is still anew thing for me...have my life down a spreadsheet with girls I've gone out with and JO>such>...but anyhow.. JO>I always had this theory about the girl you are with will be the one you JO>marry or something...well that isn't the case...then there's the case JO>about ..well for me my morals and ethics have changed extremely...for JO>example..sex...now I can't say that sex is bad..rather the person you JO>are having it with should be more than a friend..you're either dating or JO>seeing this person or in a relationship with...and this has been my JO>dilemina for sometime now... JO>It's not wierd but it's totally strange that all of a sudden after 2 JO>years I've tossed that morals aside and gone and went with wind blowing JO>in the direction it's going....all of a sudden I've stopped and JO>wondererd about this ...it's made me think with the situation I'm in JO>now...and there's a lot more that's built up on this one problem.. JO>Over the years the good and bad have been giving me a headache and JO>heartache...there were two who I cared greatly for over the last 3 years JO>of dating/relationships...not divulging names but out of ..oh about 6 or JO>so girls I've dated or something more..just two I cared for and would go JO>back without hesitation.. JO>I;m still learning a lot about what I should watch out for and who to JO>really trust....but I hope I don't wind up in a relationship that has JO>more downward spiral than a NIN album..:) Well I've learned quite a bit but I'm also still learning. Like the way I feel with Rey. I never felt this with my ex husband or with my first love. I've dated several guys and I'm not proud of it i the least. I didn't fuck all of them but I dated several. This is sort of a a good thing. I could've settled with someone worse than my ex- and my ex was probably the worst thing that ever happened to me. But there were the good times. Very few and far between but there were a few good times. I am glad I didn't leave him before I moved to Texas though. I would've never met Rey. It's amazing the crap you have to endure to get to the good things. And our relationship hasn't been perfect. He met me when I was separated from my ex. So he got to go through the whole divorce and it was fast and all too simple...but it was still painful for me. even though I fell out of love with him and I knew the relationship was dead as a doornail I still had pain. I still do when I think of some of the things I went through. But much of that is long gone and well over. Now we live here in New York. I never felt more safe and more scared in a relationship. I feel safe with him...I know he won't hurt me and I know he'll protect me. But I'm scared of the feelings I have for him and of screwing this up somehow and going down that downward spiral you mentioned. I've already went down it a couple times and I don't feel like going down it again. Rey's pretty quiet and keeps to himself a lot. You will see him talk about radio freely and about a few other things but it's real hard to get close to him. And I have screwed up with him in the past but I have more than made up for what I did to him. I'm afraid because he was more open before I screwed up and he hasn't been since. Things are getting better but I want him to feel comfortable with me and to trust me. I am so in love with him and sometimes it hurts me to think back on the past when I screwed up. I'm wondering if I'll ever get that back. He works hard and he's got a lot of stress. I hope he gives me a chance to get it back. I miss that side of him. I felt special cause he would talk to me more and now he's fairly quiet. I know he's trying to change but sometimes I wonder if he is trying or not. I wonder if he wants to just give up. I wonder if he feels the same way about me as I feel about him. Cause I don't want to lose this and I've never felt this way. That scares me the most. Losing this. I don't want to start over again. I know I'm young but I have had so much pain in my life and I don't want any more unnecessary pain. I know that's askng a lot to never have any more pain but sometimes I wonder how much pain one can endure in their life. I've had more than my share already...and more. I'm tired and just want to be happy and I don't want to be afraid of losing him. I just wish he wasn't distant and I wish he'd talk to me about what he's feeling so I wouldn't have to keep on guessing. I wish I knew if he was happy with me. He says he is but he doesn't look happy a lot. And I know he's tired and I know he's got stress from work. I know I'm happy with him. I am a little depressed. I've lived here in Nyc since August and I get real lonely. That's why I come here. To talk to people. I've had a real hard time meeting people. Plus trusting people I do meet. I've had real bad luck with friendships too. It sucks. Oh well. --- þ SLMR 2.0 þ Unable to locate Coffee -- Operator Halted! Date: Monday, April 14, 1997 1:25am Forum: BurnWard From: Sheena Msg#: 733386 To: ** ALL ** Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (1 reply) Having an affair with older man and feeling guilty :( A marriage turned into an abusive hell and I'm feeling guilty for feeling good about being treated like a woman; being treated with respect. You guys were great back in 1995 with the first Sheena saga I enjoyed your feedback. It feels good to be back! ...with fond memories, Sheena Date: Thursday, April 17, 1997 4:16am Forum: BurnWard From: Dti Msg#: 733611 To: Sheena Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #733386) (1 reply) SH>Having an affair with older man and feeling guilty :( SH>A marriage turned into an abusive hell and I'm feeling guilty for SH>feeling good about being treated like a woman; being treated with SH>respect. SH>You guys were great back in 1995 with the first Sheena saga I enjoyed SH>your feedback. SH>It feels good to be back! SH> ...with fond memories, SH> Sheena Good Morning! Tech Tip #67803: Feeling guilt for being happy is one of those things, its by definition in error and yet is often present. Still, it is baseless, well, sure there is some wierdness that the guiltshit is grown from, christ wheres my words tonight? Bottom line is: Stop giving yrself shit. Congrats on escaping yr evilsounding marriage. Try not to make rash sudden moves. Grin like twelve dozen whitehot dynamos. Best, DTI --- * SLMR 2.0 * Press any key to continue or Date: Sunday, June 29, 1997 11:48pm Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 738081 To: Dti Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #733611, Reply to #733386) (1 reply) Hi! :) You know, as a psychology major, I almost always seemed to run into these kind of situations, and it was usually someone I cared about that was asking me what the hell they thought that they should do. As time has passed, I have become less worried about my answers and have started answering from the heart. Sheena,(if I read the name of the author right), please do not be upset with me if I am speaking out of turn. :) I have to say honestly that if a person is in a relationship that is abusive, I would think that it would be more honest and indeed, better all around in the long run to simply end it. I know that many times, the situation is not so cut and dried as I may make it sound. But the bottom line is, if you are with someone who is abusing you, whether physically or mentally, it seems like it is only a matter of time before something happens which can never be changed--whether it be your self esteem and your spirit being broken, or in a worst case scenario, you lose your life--once it is done, it cannot be undone. I would think that rather than expose yourself to additional danger by having an affair, i it would be better and more safe to simply go. After all, there are a great many organizations, public and private, which can help an abused person get away and start a new life. Besides, there is nothing in this world worth a person's self esteem--certainly not the person who is doing the abusing. So there you have it. I would welcome responses, and would enjoy chatting with whomever may have comments or questions. :) Take care and remember...every day you wake up is another day..another chance that YOU have to make YOUR life, and the lives of those around you better. never forget that. :) Date: Monday, June 30, 1997 9:35pm Forum: BurnWard From: Nightbird Msg#: 738153 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738081, Reply to #733611, Reply to #733386) (1 reply) SB>Hi! :) SB> You know, as a psychology major, I almost always seemed to SB>run into these kind of situations, and it was usually someone I cared SB>about that was asking me what the hell they thought that they should do. SB>As time has passed, I have become less worried about my answers and have SB>started answering from the heart. Sheena,(if I read the name of the SB>author right), please do not be upset with me if I am speaking out of SB>turn. :) SB> I have to say honestly that if a person is in a relationship that SB>is abusive, I would think that it would be more honest and indeed, SB>better all around in the long run to simply end it. I know that many SB>times, the situation is not so cut and dried as I may make it sound. But SB>the bottom line is, if you are with someone who is abusing you, whether SB>physically or mentally, it seems like it is only a matter of time before SB>something happens which can never be changed--whether it be your self SB>esteem and your spirit being broken, or in a worst case scenario, you SB>lose your life--once it is done, it cannot be undone. I would think that SB>rather than expose yourself to additional danger by having an affair, i SB>it would be better and more safe to simply go. After all, there are a SB>great many organizations, public and private, which can help an abused SB>person get away and start a new life. Besides, there is nothing in SB>this world worth a person's self esteem--certainly not the person SB>who is doing the abusing. SB> So there you have it. I would welcome responses, and would enjoy SB>chatting with whomever may have comments or questions. :) Take care and SB>remember...every day you wake up is another day..another chance that YOU SB>have to make YOUR life, and the lives of those around you better. never SB>forget that. :) Personally speaking, I know my self-esteem was totally ruinned by the bad realtionships I was in before I met my husband. It really sucked trying to be something that they wanted you to be. * OLX 2.1 TD * This is just a hobby. Perfection is not required. Fun is. Date: Tuesday, July 1, 1997 9:21am Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 738187 To: Nightbird Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738153, Reply to #738081, Reply to #733611, R*) (1 reply) Even though I have never been in a situation that was "abusive," per se, I did spend 4 years in a relationship trying to be what my partner wanted me to be, and more importantly, what her parents wanted me to be, . I have to agree with you in that it sucks, and it DOES harm your self esteem. I see now traits in my behaviour that I can trace back to those days. The important thing is to realize that that is what is happening and to do something about it. :) I know it has been hard for me, but I am convinced that if any one of us take a good long look at what we do and why, we'll be a lot better off. If I may ask, how have things gone SINCE then? Date: Tuesday, July 1, 1997 8:18pm Forum: BurnWard From: Nightbird Msg#: 738223 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738187, Reply to #738153, Reply to #738081, R*) (1 reply) SB>Even though I have never been in a situation that was "abusive," per SB>se, I did spend 4 years in a relationship trying to be what my partner SB>wanted me to be, and more importantly, what her parents wanted me to be, SB>. I have to agree with you in that it sucks, and it DOES harm your self SB>esteem. I see now traits in my behaviour that I can trace back to those SB>days. The important thing is to realize that that is what is happening SB>and to do something about it. :) I know it has been hard for me, but I SB>am convinced that if any one of us take a good long look at what we do SB>and why, we'll be a lot better off. If I may ask, how have things gone SB>SINCE then? I'll tell you the truth, I almost joke about it but the two best things my ex did for me was get me a 12 string guitar & dump me at his grandmother's funeral. He really made me feel like shit, like I was no good, you'd think after being with my husband for 10 years(3 years going out & going on 7 years married) that I would be ok. But, I still have a bad self-imagine of myself. You see, I'm overweight & that to me is part of it but I always second guess myself. One of my friends thinks I'm crazy because I don't always like the way I look. His wife is overweight & I'm taller(5'10") but...sometimes I think I look like garbage. Sometimes I think I should be a size 10 not a size 20/22!!! I realize that's not the way it is but well, you know how the media shows overweight people, especially women with glasses. * OLX 2.1 TD * Chico of Borg: Resistance? Atsa no good. Date: Wednesday, July 2, 1997 6:25am Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 738334 To: Nightbird *EXEMPT* Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738223, Reply to #738187, Reply to #738153, R*) (1 reply) Indeed I do...being a male who wears glasses and is somewhat mannered, I definitely understand how the media plays that up. It seems like every person who isn't handsome/beautiful or super-cool acting(Watch Saved by the Bell for a prime example) is portrayed as a total moron with no social skills at all. Add to that the fact that everything we see and hear seems to point to some "image" that we are all supposed to live up to, and you can see my point, as well as yours. Rest assured, however, that there are some people out there(of which I am one) who don't operate on "Image," but instead believe that we ALL are the same in value, and have something to contribute. If nothing else, it helps when you run into those ignorant people who snicker because you don't look like Kevin Costner or Cynthia Crawford. As for your self image, well, having suffered with one myself, I can honestly say that the only thing that cures that is time. Also, I can recommend a book that helped me tremendously. It's called "I'm OK, you're OK." I know the book has been around a while, and is read in a lot of psychology classes, but I have to admit, it helped because it allows you to visualize your mind in a way that is akin to a cassette recorder--when you begin to feel down or badly about yourself, chances are that a "recording" that is stored in your mind has begun to play. Recognizing this helps the individual to "shut it off" and begin to feel better about themselves. I know I am oversimplifying, but it's the best I can do with the space restraints on here. :) I'll email you, if you like, and tell you more about it. The book is VERY easy to understand, and I think you'd enjoy it. For the nonce, remember:All of us are worth something, and have something to contribute to the world around us. Looks are fleeting, and can be faked, but what is in your HEART makes you who you are. :) IF nothing else, you have one person cheering for you--me. :) Take care, and keep that chin up! Date: Wednesday, July 2, 1997 10:49pm Forum: BurnWard From: Nightbird Msg#: 738416 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738334, Reply to #738223, Reply to #738187, R*) (1 reply) SB> Indeed I do...being a male who wears glasses and is somewhat SB>mannered, I definitely understand how the media plays that up. It seems SB>like every person who isn't handsome/beautiful or super-cool SB>acting(Watch Saved by the Bell for a prime example) is portrayed as a SB>total moron with no social skills at all. Add to that the fact that SB>everything we see and hear seems to point to some "image" that we are SB>all supposed to live up to, and you can see my point, as well as yours. SB>Rest assured, however, that there are some people out there(of which I SB>am one) who don't operate on "Image," but instead believe that we ALL SB>are the same in value, and have something to contribute. If nothing SB>else, it helps when you run into those ignorant people who snicker SB>because you don't look like Kevin Costner or Cynthia Crawford. SB> As for your self image, well, having suffered with one myself, I SB>can honestly say that the only thing that cures that is time. Also, I SB>can recommend a book that helped me tremendously. It's called "I'm OK, SB>you're OK." I know the book has been around a while, and is read in a SB>lot of psychology classes, but I have to admit, it helped because it SB>allows you to visualize your mind in a way that is akin to a cassette SB>recorder--when you begin to feel down or badly about yourself, chances SB>are that a "recording" that is stored in your mind has begun to play. SB>Recognizing this helps the individual to "shut it off" and begin to feel SB>better about themselves. I know I am oversimplifying, but it's the best SB>I can do with the space restraints on here. :) I'll email you, if you SB>like, and tell you more about it. The book is VERY easy to understand, SB>and I think you'd enjoy it. SB> For the nonce, remember:All of us are worth something, and have SB>something to contribute to the world around us. Looks are fleeting, and SB>can be faked, but what is in your HEART makes you who you are. :) IF SB>nothing else, you have one person cheering for you--me. :) Take care, SB>and keep that chin up! I understand that, thanks alot for your message. I have a friend who won't let me put myself down, me loves me & I love him(He's Not my husband, just a friend who happens to be a guy) I'll try to get the book, it has to help.. * OLX 2.1 TD * NOT READING DRIVE C:(A)bort(R)etry (B)ribe with Chocolate Date: Thursday, July 3, 1997 8:53am Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 738499 To: Nightbird Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738416, Reply to #738334, Reply to #738223, R*) (3 replies) It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander this world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," because she reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad we have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to talk about now, eh? :) Date: Sunday, July 6, 1997 1:21pm Forum: BurnWard From: Steve C Msg#: 738662 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738499, Reply to #738416, Reply to #738334, R*) SB>It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander this SB>world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," because she SB>reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad we SB>have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to talk SB>about now, eh? :) Could be, actully I laugh because my friend has orignally on of my hubby's freinds but I met him & we are SOOOO alike, that it's really scary! * OLX 2.1 TD * Answers? You really expect to learn from answers? Date: Sunday, July 6, 1997 1:45pm Forum: BurnWard From: Steve C Msg#: 738677 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738499, Reply to #738416, Reply to #738334, R*) (1 reply) SB>It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander this SB>world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," because she SB>reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad we SB>have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to talk SB>about now, eh? :) Could be, actully I laugh because my friend has orignally on of my hubby's freinds but I met him & we are SOOOO alike, that it's really scary! * OLX 2.1 TD * Answers? You really expect to learn from answers? Date: Sunday, July 6, 1997 2:01pm Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 738685 To: Steve C Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738677, Reply to #738499, Reply to #738416, R*) I know how that goes! :) Date: Sunday, July 6, 1997 2:16pm Forum: BurnWard From: Nightbird Msg#: 738693 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738499, Reply to #738416, Reply to #738334, R*) (1 reply) SB>It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander this SB>world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," because she SB>reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad we SB>have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to talk SB>about now, eh? :) Could be, actully I laugh because my friend has orignally on of my hubby's freinds but I met him & we are SOOOO alike, that it's really scary! * OLX 2.1 TD * Answers? You really expect to learn from answers? Date: Monday, July 7, 1997 6:22pm Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 738748 To: Nightbird Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738693, Reply to #738499, Reply to #738416, R*) (1 reply) I>SB>It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander this NI>SB>world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," because she NI>SB>reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad we NI>SB>have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to talk NI>SB>about now, eh? :) NI>Could be, actully I laugh because my friend has orignally on of my NI>hubby's freinds but I met him & we are SOOOO alike, that it's really NI>scary! NI> * OLX 2.1 TD * Answers? You really expect to learn from answers? Actually, it is quite logical. After all, your husband would have friends that have SOME things in common with you, else how would he have known what it was he liked and wanted in a mate? :) Date: Tuesday, July 8, 1997 7:19pm Forum: BurnWard From: Nightbird Msg#: 738784 To: Sam Beckett Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738748, Reply to #738693, Reply to #738499, R*) (1 reply) SB>I>SB>It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander this SB>NI>SB>world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," because s SB>NI>SB>reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad we SB>NI>SB>have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to ta SB>NI>SB>about now, eh? :) SB>NI>Could be, actully I laugh because my friend has orignally on of my SB>NI>hubby's freinds but I met him & we are SOOOO alike, that it's really SB>NI>scary! SB>NI> * OLX 2.1 TD * Answers? You really expect to learn from answers? SB>Actually, it is quite logical. After all, your husband would have SB>friends that have SOME things in common with you, else how would he have SB>known what it was he liked and wanted in a mate? :) True! * OLX 2.1 TD * Do files get embarrased when they are unzipped? Date: Wednesday, July 23, 1997 5:19pm Forum: BurnWard From: Sam Beckett Msg#: 739570 To: Nightbird Re: It's DeJavu Everybody! (Reply to #738784, Reply to #738748, Reply to #738693, R*) NI>SB>I>SB>It sounds like your friend is one of the decent ones that wander thi NI>SB>NI>SB>world. I have a female friend like that--I call her "Velma," becaus NI>SB>NI>SB>reminds me of the character on Scooby Doo. In any event, I am glad NI>SB>NI>SB>have corresponded. :) Guess I'll have to think of something else to NI>SB>NI>SB>about now, eh? :) NI>SB>NI>Could be, actully I laugh because my friend has orignally on of my NI>SB>NI>hubby's freinds but I met him & we are SOOOO alike, that it's really NI>SB>NI>scary! NI>SB>NI> * OLX 2.1 TD * Answers? You really expect to learn from answers? NI>SB>Actually, it is quite logical. After all, your husband would have NI>SB>friends that have SOME things in common with you, else how would he have NI>SB>known what it was he liked and wanted in a mate? :) NI>True! NI> * OLX 2.1 TD * Do files get embarrased when they are unzipped? ! :) Glad to see that you agree End of list! Select a Sysop option (R,W,F,T,S,M,E,A,O,X to exit or ? for menu):